Before you say the spark is gone, identify exactly what is missing. This desire audit separates attraction, admiration, safety, novelty, touch and sexual connection.
"We have lost the spark" sounds clear.
It usually is not.
One person means sex has become rare.
Another means they no longer feel admired.
Another means the relationship is predictable.
Another means they are carrying resentment.
Another means they miss affection, not intercourse.
If you do not define what is missing, you can spend months trying to fix the wrong thing.
Score each area from 0 to 10.
The rest of this guide goes beyond the headline idea. It takes you into the patterns, questions and practical decisions that help you apply this to your own relationship.
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