When every serious conversation becomes a fight, the couple often needs a new process before it needs another attempt at the same conversation.
Some couples do not have one difficult subject.
They have a difficult way of talking about every subject.
Money becomes a fight.
Sex becomes a fight.
Family becomes a fight.
Even discussing how much you fight becomes a fight.
When that happens, another spontaneous conversation is rarely the answer.
You need a different process.
Timing does not solve conflict, but bad timing makes it harder.
The rest of this guide goes beyond the headline idea. It takes you into the patterns, questions and practical decisions that help you apply this to your own relationship.
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