Moving in together can solve distance and expense while creating bigger relationship problems. Test whether you are choosing a shared life or using cohabitation to fix something else.
Moving in together is often presented as the next natural step.
Sometimes it is.
Sometimes it is a solution to a completely different problem.
Rent is expensive.
The commute is tiring.
You want more time together.
One person needs somewhere to live.
The relationship has been unstable and living together feels like a way to become closer.
Before you sign anything, ask what problem the move is supposed to solve.
The rest of this guide goes beyond the headline idea. It takes you into the patterns, questions and practical decisions that help you apply this to your own relationship.
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