Household labour becomes relationship labour when one person has to notice, plan and remind. Make the invisible work visible before resentment turns into contempt.
"Just tell me what needs doing."
It sounds cooperative.
It can still leave one person carrying the household.
Because noticing what needs doing is part of the work.
Planning is part of the work.
Remembering is part of the work.
Following up is part of the work.
If one person has to manage the other, the task is not truly shared.
Write down recurring work.
The rest of this guide goes beyond the headline idea. It takes you into the patterns, questions and practical decisions that help you apply this to your own relationship.
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