A parent's children have real needs, but a partnership cannot survive if every adult need is dismissed with “the children come first.” Learn the difference between priority and permanent exclusion.
"My children come first."
For a parent, that sentence can sound responsible.
For their partner, it can eventually sound like:
"You will always come last."
Children do have needs adults are responsible for meeting.
A healthy adult partnership also needs time, voice and protection.
The two should not be turned into permanent competitors.
A sick child may need the parent more than a planned date.
A school crisis may change the weekend.
The rest of this guide goes beyond the headline idea. It takes you into the patterns, questions and practical decisions that help you apply this to your own relationship.
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