Not every difference is a compatibility problem. This audit helps couples sort enriching differences, manageable differences and differences that threaten the life they want.
Couples are often told either:
"Opposites attract."
or
"You need someone compatible."
Both statements are incomplete.
Difference can create curiosity, growth and balance.
Difference can also create chronic conflict.
The useful question is what kind of difference you are dealing with.
These differences add range without threatening core needs.
The rest of this guide goes beyond the headline idea. It takes you into the patterns, questions and practical decisions that help you apply this to your own relationship.
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