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Before I Start Dating

Explore what you want, what you can offer, and the boundaries and choices you want to make before beginning a relationship.

25 questions, five subjectsImmediate conversation clarity indexNo email required; answers not stored

What this measures: How thoroughly you feel you have explored the subjects below. It does not measure your worth, diagnose any condition, predict relationship outcomes, or decide what you should do. A topic can be discussed and still be unsafe or unsuitable. If you experience threats, fear or controlling behaviour, prioritise independent specialist support over a score.

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Your reasons

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Know why you are dating

Choose the answer closest to your current situation, not the answer you hope will be true later.

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Question 1: How clearly have you considered your reasons for wanting to date now?
Question 2: How clearly have you considered the difference between companionship and fear of being alone?
Question 3: How clearly have you considered whether you have space in your life for another person?
Question 4: How clearly have you considered what you learned from previous relationships?
Question 5: How clearly have you considered how you will recognise if you are rushing into something?

Answer all five questions to continue.

How scoring works: Each of the 25 answers contributes 0 to 4 points to a self-reported conversation clarity index out of 100. It is not a validated diagnostic, a compatibility score or advice to stay, leave, marry or have children.

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