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Before We Get Married

The wedding day is not the daily marriage. Examine the agreements that will shape your ordinary life together.

25 questions, five subjectsImmediate conversation clarity indexNo email required; answers not stored

What this measures: How thoroughly you feel you have explored the subjects below. It does not measure your worth, diagnose any condition, predict relationship outcomes, or decide what you should do. A topic can be discussed and still be unsafe or unsuitable. If you experience threats, fear or controlling behaviour, prioritise independent specialist support over a score.

Section 1 of 5

The commitment

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Understand what you are promising

Choose the answer closest to your current situation, not the answer you hope will be true later.

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Question 1: How clearly have you considered what being married means to each of you?
Question 2: How clearly have you considered whether you can name concerns you still have?
Question 3: How clearly have you considered how decisions would be made when you disagree?
Question 4: How clearly have you considered your expectations of fidelity and relationship boundaries?
Question 5: How clearly have you considered what commitment means during difficult seasons?

Answer all five questions to continue.

How scoring works: Each of the 25 answers contributes 0 to 4 points to a self-reported conversation clarity index out of 100. It is not a validated diagnostic, a compatibility score or advice to stay, leave, marry or have children.

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