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Should We Have Children Together?

Having children is not a question another person's enthusiasm can answer for you. Explore the practical, emotional and ethical decisions involved.

25 questions, five subjectsImmediate conversation clarity indexNo email required; answers not stored

What this measures: How thoroughly you feel you have explored the subjects below. It does not measure your worth, diagnose any condition, predict relationship outcomes, or decide what you should do. A topic can be discussed and still be unsafe or unsuitable. If you experience threats, fear or controlling behaviour, prioritise independent specialist support over a score.

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The choice

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Explore what each person wants

Choose the answer closest to your current situation, not the answer you hope will be true later.

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Question 1: How clearly have you considered whether each of you independently wants to become a parent?
Question 2: How clearly have you considered how you understand the reasons behind that wish?
Question 3: How clearly have you considered whether either person feels pressured by age, family or a partner?
Question 4: How clearly have you considered how you would respond if you disagreed about having children?
Question 5: How clearly have you considered which uncertainties you may need time to understand?

Answer all five questions to continue.

How scoring works: Each of the 25 answers contributes 0 to 4 points to a self-reported conversation clarity index out of 100. It is not a validated diagnostic, a compatibility score or advice to stay, leave, marry or have children.

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