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Trust and repair · Free education

How Clear Are Our Trust Boundaries?

Trust is not a demand for access to another person's life. Explore expectations, privacy, repair and the safety of speaking honestly.

25 questions, five subjectsImmediate conversation clarity indexNo email required; answers not stored

What this measures: How thoroughly you feel you have explored the subjects below. It does not measure your worth, diagnose any condition, predict relationship outcomes, or decide what you should do. A topic can be discussed and still be unsafe or unsuitable. If you experience threats, fear or controlling behaviour, prioritise independent specialist support over a score.

Section 1 of 5

What trust means

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Define the expectations

Choose the answer closest to your current situation, not the answer you hope will be true later.

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Question 1: How clearly have you considered what honesty means to each of you?
Question 2: How clearly have you considered the difference between personal privacy and hiding agreements?
Question 3: How clearly have you considered your expectations about fidelity and exclusivity?
Question 4: How clearly have you considered which friendships and former-partner boundaries need discussing?
Question 5: How clearly have you considered what each of you considers a breach of trust?

Answer all five questions to continue.

How scoring works: Each of the 25 answers contributes 0 to 4 points to a self-reported conversation clarity index out of 100. It is not a validated diagnostic, a compatibility score or advice to stay, leave, marry or have children.

Privacy: Answers remain in this page in your browser and are not submitted to our server. Only anonymous page events may be recorded if you have agreed to analytics cookies.