Someone likes you, and you feel calm.
They stop replying, and you feel small.
Someone praises your work, and you feel capable.
They question one decision, and you spend the evening proving yourself.
You may call this a confidence problem.
I want you to look closer.
What if your confidence is not missing? What if you have learned to borrow it from other people?
When they approve, you feel good.
When they do not, you feel as if something important has been taken away.
That is exhausting. There will always be someone who disagrees, changes their mind, loses interest, or fails to notice your effort.
