Forgiveness changes what you carry. Trust changes what you are willing to rely on. The two processes should not be confused.
People often use forgiveness and trust as if they are stages on the same ladder.
Forgive first.
Trust next.
Move on.
Real relationships are less tidy.
You can forgive someone and never trust them with the same access again.
You can trust someone in one area and not another.
You can choose not to hate a person while still deciding the relationship is over.
Understanding the difference removes a lot of pressure.
The rest of this guide goes beyond the headline idea. It takes you into the patterns, questions and practical decisions that help you apply this to your own relationship.
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