After infidelity, more information is not always more healing. Learn which details help you make decisions and which details may only deepen painful mental images.
After infidelity, the mind hates empty spaces.
Where were you?
How many times?
What did you say?
Was the sex better?
Did you do things with them you never did with me?
Did you love them?
The urge to know everything makes sense.
Your reality changed without your consent.
Questions are one way of trying to rebuild a map.
The rest of this guide goes beyond the headline idea. It takes you into the patterns, questions and practical decisions that help you apply this to your own relationship.
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