Tony Robbins teaches that people organise much of their behaviour around six human needs. The framework is not established psychological science, but it can become a useful relationship lens when you translate each need into observable behaviour and compare it with what research says about autonomy, relatedness and relationship functioning.
A couple can argue about a phone for forty minutes and never once argue about the phone.
“You’re always on that thing.”
“I’m answering one message.”
“You said that ten minutes ago.”
“Why do you need my attention every second?”
Now it looks like a screen-time argument.
But one person may be asking:
“Am I important to you?”
The other may be asking:
“Am I allowed to have space without being accused of not loving you?”
The rest of this guide goes beyond the headline idea. It takes you into the patterns, questions and practical decisions that help you apply this to your own relationship.
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