Field Notes
The conversations most couples wish they'd had earlier.
Practical, evidence-informed essays on the decisions that quietly shape a relationship: moving in, money, conflict, trust, commitment, and the ones nobody warns you about.
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articles · updated regularly · by Evan Evans
Money & Power
On money & power
Each piece is designed to leave you with something to recognise, discuss or do, not just another relationship opinion to consume.
The Money Conversation Most Couples Have Too Late
The money conversation couples postpone is rarely about a budget alone. It is about debt, lifestyle, family obligations, power, security and the future.
Should Couples Combine Their Finances?
Joint finances work for some couples and separate finances work for others. The better question is what system gives you transparency, fairness and enough autonomy.
50/50 Is Not Always Fair: How Couples Should Think About Contribution
Equal contribution is easy to calculate. Fair contribution is more complex. Income, unpaid labour, caregiving and personal freedom all matter.
When One Partner Earns Much More Than the Other
A large income gap changes options, lifestyle and power. The relationship needs an explicit system so generosity does not become control and contribution does not become shame.
Financial Dependency: Support, Partnership or Control?
Financial dependence can be loving support, a chosen division of roles or a form of control. The difference lies in access, agency, information and the ability to say no.
Saver Versus Spender: Can Two Different Money Personalities Work?
A saver and spender can build a stable life together if they stop treating money style as character and create rules that protect both security and freedom.
The Hidden Power Struggle Behind Money Arguments
Money arguments are often power arguments in disguise. Look underneath spending and saving to see who gets to decide, who feels controlled and who carries the risk.
The Couples Money System: How to Build Accounts, Rules and Freedom Together
A good couples money system makes bills boring, goals visible and personal spending less political. Build clear accounts, rules and review points.
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